4 Tips to Building Confidence

We had the pleasure of partnering with Sorel to host an event in our Tigard, Oregon store last week on building confidence. We are so lucky to be able to work with brands that share the common mission of supporting women and encouraging them to embrace their own beauty and power. The night was filled with food, fashion, shopping, and lots of great information on building confidence. The highlight of the evening was a panel discussion with the women from the Portland Coaching Collective. The Portland Coaching Collective is a group of independent Certified Professional Coaches, who while practicing different coaching techniques and having different focus areas, all have the common goal of the betterment of self and the betterment of their community and culture. The panel focused on the tips and tools that can be used to embrace self-confidence and some of the common obstacles that we face when it comes to living our most confident lives.

Mike and Megan Tamte, our co-founders and co-CEOs, with Evereve’s Tigard Store Team

Mike and Megan Tamte, our co-founders and co-CEOs, with the Sorel Team

The women of the Portland Coaching Collective

The women from the collective were kind enough to each share their number one tip for developing confidence, and we wanted to share them with you.

4 Tips for Building Self Confidence:

Turning Toward Your Own Success
We are so busy criticizing ourselves we rarely stop to remember the times we overcame, rose to the occasion, and shined brightest in our lives. These are the very images and feelings that need to be present in our mind’s eye to create confidence and momentum. To pull forth these images and feelings try asking yourself: What are my success stories? What gives me pride? What strengths did I use to overcome a significant challenge? The next time you find yourself wanting to make a big change, rise to a new challenge, or simply stop beating yourself up, try consciously turning towards your own stories of strength and success. You will begin to find that you are much wiser, more confident, and more beautiful than you ever realized.
– Allie Quady, CHWC

Don’t Let Your Fears Drive The Bus!!
A Step-By-Step Guide to Welcoming Your Fear of Failing to Be Confident.
Step 1.) Be willing to suck at always being confident and prepared to chuckle at yourself along the way.
Step 2.) Forgive yourself in advance, before you even show up, no matter how you show up.
Step 3.) Smile. Literally. Smiling welcomes your whole self with curiosity, even the part that doesn’t always get it right
and makes way for your most truthful and graceful self on the scene.
Step 4.) If and when you fumble, consider it an opportunity to let your sense of humor scoop you up, creating an irresistible invitation for that tucked away confidence to come out and play.
–Michele Greco, CPC, PCC

Radical Acceptance -A Path to True Confidence
The absence of confidence is not fully accepting who you are. Getting to know ourselves beneath the roles we carry and images we project and discovering who we are through the eyes of our soul cultivates the most genuine form of confidence. Radical acceptance doesn’t mean we don’t continue to strive for more. Rather we find our resilience as we start to connect simply with what is in a more intimate way. We stop running from ourselves by distracting and tuning out so that we can fully embody our lives and feel our moments. One way to start this dialogue is to find a pause and with a deep grounding breath placing your hand on your heart and whisper, “I am listening.”
–Penelope Rose Miller, CPCC, PCC

‘Finding Steam’ -A Metaphor About Confidence
If someone were to tell you “steam” was required to make macaroni and cheese and you didn’t have any experience in the kitchen you might think you needed to find some steam before you could start cooking. But steam is not on the mac & cheese ingredient list. Steam appears on its own as a byproduct of boiling the water. Confidence is kind of like that. You have to get started first. You need to gather your ingredients and start that pot of water boiling. Do what you can to prepare, put “finding steam” out of your mind, and know that steam (aka confidence) will come in time.
–Michele Mather, CPC, PCC